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Losing a date happens when you have acted in a way that is a turnoff. Often, when a recent date does not return your phone calls or emails, your first reaction might be to find something wrong with him or her. However, before you do that, look to your own behavior. There are several reasons you can count on, that will turn dates away. If you have ever wondered why he or she does not want to see you again, it may have something to do with the following: going out with you may not be fun because of your negative talk.

You can lose a date by using a continual stream of cutting remarks about your boss, coworkers, family, friends, people in general, or...YOUR EX. Nasty comments can make you extremely unattractive in almost all situations. But sarcastic descriptions of your ex, or whining about what your ex did to you, is a major turnoff when you are on a date.

When you are dating someone new, remember this: you don't need a third person with you. You especially don't need someone there who you have been in an intimate relationship with in the past. This line of conversation makes your current date feel uncomfortable. When you talk about your ex, you put him or her right there in the middle of your getting to know each other.

You can't win doing this. If you say something nice about him or her, your date will automatically think you are still in love. If you say negative things, the person you are with may think you will say the same about them behind their back. It also makes you sound like a victim or a loser. And whatever you say about the ex, it will seem like you have not handled your baggage. This kind of baggage is not attractive.

Instead of losing the date, lose the baggage. Three people on a date is just plain crowded. Stay in the moment, stay happy, and stay interested in the person you are with. This is how you keep a date.

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